Let us talk about you and regaining even more control over your lifetime. When you feel you have control, you have a feeling of power, direction and clarity of purpose. Unfortunately, you don’t have as much control over people and circumstances as you might like, but then again, you do, ultimately, have far more control and influence than you might have thought.
Following is a trend I’ve noticed with people: If they feel they do not have control over circumstances, they allow themselves to “lose control” in areas of their lives they actually DO have control over!
Here is an example: Someone at work got promoted over you. You come home and Centurian comfort eat, or head to the mall and do some “retail therapy.” Before you know it, you’ve consumed way more food than you planned, or spent far more money than you meant to.
Okay, perhaps you don’t do so, but do you know anybody who does? When you think about it, it is interesting (is that the right word?) To allow yourself to get even further out of control, just when it would be a fantastic idea to flex your muscle.
Let’s take a look at regaining that wonderful sense of power, controller and self-direction. First, make a list of all of the things you’ve got control over. Yes, you’ll be starting with yourself, but expand that list until you have 20-plus ideas. You will start feeling better just to remind yourself just how much control you have over your thoughts, feelings, and actions!
Next, make a list of items you can influence. Of course, you can not control people, but you can affect many of them. If you could not, there wouldn’t be any promotion degrees, and I wouldn’t be giving seminars on persuasion and discussion!
By the way, when you’re listing things you can influence, don’t hold back. You have a lot more influence than you may think. For example, you cannot control traffic, but you can control exactly what time you wake up and leave the house.
Wish to regain a sense of control within the next 24 hours?
Try this: the moment you’re finished reading this, write ONE action, just One action, you can take today that will allow you to see this as a successful day. Tie this activity to something that you truly appreciate. Then, do this one thing.
If you’re feeling you have more time to do something else, go ahead and write down another product. Just be sure to make your actions manageable and clear. If one action is great, 20 are NOT better! Tonight, before leaving work, or if you’ve already left work for the day, write down three to five (no more than five!) Actions you can take tomorrow to help that day be successful.
Now, prioritize this short list. And by the way, you cannot do all actions at once, so be sure to have a clear #1, and so on.
You will have less stress, and be able to leave work at work
You’ll sleep better
Your subconscious will come up with some clear ideas about how best to handle that short list
You’ll have more energy and focus, and so, more success, the next day